When to Question Your Instincts
At the end of March I discovered a beautiful property for sale in the country and fell in love with it instantly. A mere 1.5 hours from where we live, I was able to convince my husband and son to go see it. We considered it research for the type of home and land we wanted to own one day.
The thing is, we hadn’t planned to move any time soon. We love our current home and the amenities. We are close to parks, trails, the countryside, schools, shopping, restaurants, and people we love. While we thought that one day we would move somewhere else, we had no idea what would take us there or when. We had dreams of living in the country where we could live sustainably with the land, or even live in other countries, far away from the cold Canadian winters. But those were dreams and we weren’t sure they would become reality.
We visited the property and we all fell in love with it.
A sustainably built home that is independently powered by wind and solar energy, surrounded by huge gardens, fruit trees and bushes, a pond, stream, and a large forest, all on 46 acres. It would mean a huge shift in our lifestyle from city-life and fast-paced going-through-the-motions we’re-just-existing-not-living. It would mean shifting back to nature, to growing our own food half of the year, making things we need instead of buying them, spending quality time with loved ones, and even chopping wood to heat the house in the winter.
From the outside looking in, it was a shocking change to many. Lots of people thought we were crazy and called us on it.
But deep down it felt right. We felt at home there. We could see the positive changes that would happen in our lives as a result of moving there. We were scared yet excited about all the new things we would have to learn, many of them basic survival skills that most of us in modern society have lost. We were positively giddy!
Our offer on the dream property was accepted so we got to work getting our house ready for sale. 3 weeks of intense packing extra things away, painting, flooring, cleaning, and donating. When we listed our house for sale we had tons of people come through, with rave reviews on how beautiful our property was. Time passed. The weeks ticked away. No offers. We couldn’t understand what was going on… everything had lined up so perfectly until then. It was as if the universe had aligned to bring this property to us, then aligned to provide everything and everyone we needed to get our house ready for sale.
Our instincts said it was right. We wondered if we were wrong.
Despite trying to sell privately (which felt SO right), we listed with a realtor at the start of June.
We again had lots of showings of our property with rave reviews. Then it happened. We got a cash offer! While lower than we had hoped, we squashed the money gremlin and agreed to a middle ground number on our home. We were thrilled and relieved! A firm offer meant that we were able to buy the dream property! Everything was right again.
Then the offer fell through. The buyers’ money was tied up in Egypt and the new government was letting any money out of the country. We were devastated. While we had grounds for legal action, we knew that would solve nothing. We were at a loss as to why yet another obstacle stopped us from moving ahead.
We are still waiting for our house to sell. We have 4 weeks to have a firm signed agreement to sell our house. If that doesn’t happen, we lose the dream property. It still feels right and that it’s going to happen. We can still feel ourselves living there. But we question the delays and obstacles even more now.
When every fiber of your being says that something is the right thing to do, it is so difficult to understand why obstacles keep getting in your way.
Is it a test to see how badly you really want it? Or maybe it’s not the right thing after all. Maybe what feels so right is the catalyst to make another bigger change that would have been too scary to do in the first place.
Questioning your instincts is a good thing.
It keeps you balanced and helps ensure you understand what you want and why you want it. It helps you look at alternatives and look at the bigger picture. Most of all, it helps you be fully present as you go through the big changes, so you are consciously living each moment. The key is to question them in a healthy and positive way, so that you don’t surround yourself with negativity and doubt.
Follow your instincts. With hardships, we discover what we are truly made of and capable of. We surprise ourselves with our ingenuity, strength, and skills. Believe that every moment is good and that you will find your way to wonderful, even if the wonderful ends up being something else entirely from what you expected.
What About You?
Have you truly felt deep-down that something was right for you, but then have obstacles crop up again and again? Were you able to make your way to what your instincts guided you too? How did you get there? If not, where did you end up?
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